Nothing is wrong with you: a Promise, a Path & a Pep talk

Hi. 

Let me take a minute here & squeeze your hand. 

The weight lately of headlines, hot takes online & relentless hum of anxiety that seems to live rent-free in our nervous systems is absolutely suffocating us. 

I feel it too. It’s not you.

This is a heavy season. I am not here to pretend otherwise. But heaviness is not hopelessness. And in this politically-charged climate, leadership shouldn’t look like having to choose between shouting louder or surrendering entirely. We need steadiness. Discernment. Leaders who choose to be informed without being consumed, compassionate without being paralyzed, and engaged without losing ourselves in the chaos.

And if you’re tempted to think, "I’m not a leader..." you absolutely are. You are here. Leadership already lives in the way you show up for your children, your family, your community, your colleagues & yourself. It looks a lot less like a podium and a lot more like a promise. 

There was a time when women did not do all of this alone. Work happened in circles & not silos. Laundry was shared, children moved from lap to lap, meals were cooked w/extra hands & the air full of stories. Life was still hard, but it was held together communally. Insomnia Mom isn’t a new idea. It’s an old truth, translated for modern life.

So, here’s my promise to you: Insomnia Mom will be a place where you are served & sheltered. A place that doesn’t rush past your feelings or ask you to toughen up and move on. We are not asking for you to give more. Or say less. Overwhelm is acknowledged here & then met with real, manageable support. 

This community exists to remind you that doing everything alone was never the goal, and that true leadership begins with letting the load be shared. 

We will be empowering, supportive, and deeply aware. We will listen. We will provide resources, opportunities & community to connect. Not alarmist. Not apathetic. Not performative. We will be grounded leaders who tell the truth, hold space, and then actually do something useful with it.

So let's move forward, clear-eyed & intentional:

1. Curate what you consume. You don’t have a civic duty to doom-scroll. Choose two or three trusted sources. Check them intentionally. Occasionally. Then log off completely & re-enter your real life. Our amygdala needs asylum. 

2. Anchor locally.  Big systems feel overwhelming. Real change often starts small. Show up for your community. Volunteer, gather, collaborate. Know your game-changers & your magic makers. Leadership grows where relationships are nurtured. More on this soon.

3. Choose one actionable lane. You can’t care about everything equally. Pick one pipeline where your skills and influence can help & engage there with consistency. Progress beats perfection every time. Again, more on this soon. 

4. Love your loves.  This is not the season to assume your people know how much they matter to you. Say it. Show it. Apologize first. Text the friend. Make the plan. Stay a little longer. Explain you "just can't tonight" w/honesty instead of guilt. In a world that feels increasingly fractured, loving your people well is both a refuge & an act of leadership. If these are the relationships that steady you & tell you the truth, tend to them first. They're the point.  

5. Feed your spirituality.  Whatever that looks like for you. This might be a sermon, a therapy session, reading or sitting in the sunshine. It might be prayer, philanthropy, journaling, music or quiet meditation. Something has to refill your well. Something not digital. You cannot distract your way through these hard things. Lord knows I have tried. Some parts of us need reverence, rhythm, and rest. 

6. Don't abandon what built you up to get here.  You earned this vantage point. These times are meant to distract & dilute your concentration & your confidence. Trust your gut. The clarity, grit, and discernment that brought you here are still reliable. Trust them. They are not fake. They are not fragile & neither are you. 

Insomnia Mom was built for women who are capable, caring, and tired of carrying everything alone. Women who are building businesses, families, communities, and identities in real time. Women who need strategy & practical support. That mission hasn’t changed. If anything, this moment calls us to do it more boldly.

With this part in place....

Let's practice arriving ready this year: 

• To let us hear you & let us help. 

• To ask for help sooner than you used to. 

• To believe delegation isn’t failure.

• To ignore pride telling you to push through.

• To let support be part of your story, not a sign that you’re falling behind. 

And when you lose your footing...as we all do...we promise our door is always open.